Thursday, March 16, 2006

Day After.

Thank you all for your kind words, thoughts, and prayers for me and my family. I've learned a lot this week. And felt/reflected a lot this week also. Nothing prepares you for the loss of a parent, but hearing from many of you through email or a phone call was comforting.

The day after is weird. From the time you learn to the time of the final goodbye, you're surrounded by people 24/7, have what seems like a million decisions to make, and a ton of papers to sign. My dad, fortunately, kept his papers pretty organized, easy to find, and user friendly, so to speak, so our decisions were not too difficult. That helps a lot. But today, now that the goodbyes are done and ceremony over, it's back to us. We slept in past seven for a change. So eerily quiet in the house. I guess that's how it should be.

On a similar note, I know it's not the funnest dinnertime conversation, but it might be worth talking with your parents or siblings or significant other about their wishes, their papers, and what they'd expect... or even if they've already paid for, or are considering paying/planning in advance for, their final arrangements. It can make things so much easier for everyone involved. Like I said, not the typical fireplace discussion, but something worth considering before you're there.

Thank you all again. I'll be writing again soon about books, my writing, hot spots, and all the other things I normally get your advice and thoughts on.

Peace be with you all.


Marz said...

Glad everything is okay. (HUGGS)

I try to talk to my parents about that stuff, they say I'm being morbid.


Phoenix said...

Welcome back.

Anonymous said...

My Dad had his Will rewritten after my mom passed. He informed my siblings and me of his wishes. Like you said, it's not the most fun topic to bring up. But it pays to be prepared.

Keep your head up!! (BIG HUG)

Kevin C

Brown Braided Woman said...

Dreamt about you last night. We were having a chat. Great advice. Welcome back.

Trent Jackson said...


Thank you do much for sharing what you have. It's really important for people to have this kind of dialouge with their familes...and its so hot that you can talk about your experience so that you may help someone else! I know what it's like!

I'm here if you need me! Sunday night...? Somtime soon?

D-Place said...

Hey Fred. I'm glad that you and your family are doing ok. It will take time to digest it all. Sometimes you may feel sad, sometimes you may smile, sometimes you may look for him, sometimes you may feel him near. All of those feelings are valid feelings and everything that you feel is real.

Just let it happen. God Bless you and your family.

Dayne Avery said...

Welcome back!

Ibarionex R. Perello said...

God bless you and your family, Fred. You'll be in our prayers.

joy in L.A said...

Glad you're ok. :) Nothing hurts worse....