Thursday, March 09, 2006


It's the call you know you're going to get someday, but you're never really prepared for the day it actually happens. That one of your parents has died. My dad. Wednesday morning. So unexpected. There is no handbook or rulebook for what you do, how you plan, how you deal. I'll be away for a while. But I know some of you know me personally and really well, some of you know me only through my novel or the blog. Either way, I thought I would share a bit. My dad was so cool, fun to be around, and so supportive of ALL things I did, as well as supportive of my sister and my mom in ALL things they did. Very proud father, as I wrote about him last fall for his birthday, who knew how much we loved him and who shared unconditional love with us all the time. A father who stays around to rear you, stays loyal to his family, and enjoys you as an adult as much as when you were a kid seems like such a rare gift and blessing these days. I definitely feel blessed to have had him for the years I did.


Da Jardin said...

Just dropping by your brotha...please accept my condolenses and know that you and yours are in my prayers...

Phoenix said...

Sorry to read about your dad. Stay blessed and be encouraged.

Matt said...

Then Almitra spoke, saying, "We would ask now of Death."

And he said:

You would know the secret of death.

But how shall you find it unless you seek it in the heart of life?

The owl whose night-bound eyes are blind unto the day cannot unveil the mystery of light.

If you would indeed behold the spirit of death, open your heart wide unto the body of life.

For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one.

In the depth of your hopes and desires lies your silent knowledge of the beyond;

And like seeds dreaming beneath the snow your heart dreams of spring.

Trust the dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.

Your fear of death is but the trembling of the shepherd when he stands before the king whose hand is to be laid upon him in honour.

Is the shepherd not joyful beneath his trembling, that he shall wear the mark of the king?

Yet is he not more mindful of his trembling?

For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun?

And what is to cease breathing, but to free the breath from its restless tides, that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?

Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing.

And when you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb.

And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.

-- Kahlil Gibran

Randy Boyd said...

Thanks for sharing. Blessings to you and your family, especially during this challenging time.

Anonymous said...

I'm sorry to read about the lost of your Dad. No matter if you're 5 years old or 50. The pain of losing a parent is always the same.

May blessings and love comfort you and your family always.

I'll talk with you later.

Kevin C

Joseph said...

My condolense, blessing and prayers go out to you and your family.

Stay strong, positive and creative.


Brown Braided Woman said...

Thank you for being gracious enough to share this moment with us. The loss is a great one. He sounds like a general among footsoldiers. May his Spirit find peace and rest.

trent said...

My heart goes out to you at this moment. May your dad be in Heaven happy, worry free, and forever peaceful. May the Lord and His Son give you more happy days than sad days while you continue in this life on earth. Blessings to you, man.

thelastnoel said...

Oh Gawd. I lost my dad a few years ago. It's devastating. It'll hurt. Be prepared.

Rod said...

You and the family have my best.
Please stay strong. I've been there myself.

D-Place said...

Fred...I'm so sorry to hear about your Father. You and your family are in my prayers. I wanted to share a poem with you that a friend wrote for me when my Grandmother passed.

I can almost touch your face
You're just that vivid in my mind
And though I can't touch visions
We'll meet again in but a short time.
And on that happy meeting
We'll be each so glad to see
Because I did really love you
And I know that you loved me.
And if it be a moment
Or long days which fade to years
I'll not forget you ever
Although now you're blurred by tears.
Those tears may dry and leave me
I pray your memory never will
As memories are my way of knowing
That you are here with me still.

BuddahDesmond said...

I'm very sorry to hear about the passing of your Father. I send my condolences out to you and your family. Though this is a trying time, count on strength and faith to make it through. Please hold dear all those precious moments you shared.

Peace & Blessings,


Marz said...

Prayers, happy times, blessings, and joy to you and your family in your time of grieving.


Liza Palmer said...

I'm so very sorry, sweetie. So very sorry.

Cynthia Perello said...
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Cynthia Perello said...

Fred, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad's passing. May you and your family be blessed with much love, awesome courage, great strength and positive support.

Frederick Smith said...

Thank you all for your kind words and prayers. My family and I appreciate them very much. Thank you!


mytruth said...

OH WOW! There are no words for something like this. You are in my prayers.

Trent Jackson said...


My heart goes out to you and your family right now.

It's a difficult time for you but you're strong and you can endure! I've seen you in action.

I pray that you're in a place of peace...and I thank you for thinking of me during this trying time! It meant a lot to speak with you today!

I'm praying with and for you right now...I'm here if you need me!


ProfessorGQ said...

My prayers are with you.

Terrence said...

God Bless.