So I had a good weekend in the Midwest. Taking care of family things still. It's still so unbelievable to not have my father around physically anymore, but I feel his presence all the time. Weird.
But on another note, I also got to see some of the boys who came of age with me during the college years. Boys like us, highly involved on campus, good grades, trying to be the "safe" black guy on a predominantly white college campus. That's a whole 'nother story. Thank God I outgrew that phase. But I think you know what I mean.
Anyway, catching up with folks -- in person and after so many years -- is fun. You see how your lives and personalities have remained the same in many ways. And diverged in many others.
One way our lives have changed... well, maybe not changed, but it's definitely an interesting observation. The boys I caught up with are all dating Santa Claus. Well, not literally Santa Claus, but you know what I mean... you're smart... I think you do. Just look at the picture. Not the demographic we necessarily saw ourselves settling down with while in college back in the day.
Not a problem. Just interesting. Everyone's happy, loving, supportive. All that good stuff. I don't know where I'm going with this. But it's been on my mind all weekend. I'm not dating, nor have I dated, Santa Claus.
I know love is blind and kind and supportive and all that good stuff. Love comes when you're not looking for it. Yeah, I know.
I know about the dating drought, wondering if you're in the same boat as your straight female counterparts (where are ALL the good ______ dudes???), reading all the stats about our communities, feeling like you'll never find another YOU, etc... Still, I've never seen myself with Santa Claus, but maybe that's why I'm single. Perpetually single. Do I block love and possible dates with too many categories on my list? Geez... the perpetual list. I know you've got one too :-) What's on your list?
Anyway, do you ever wonder about the choices -- dating or otherwise -- friends you haven't seen in a while are making? Have your dating choices changed -- by choice or necessity -- due to your demographic changes, professional successes, or other factors?
Charlie and the Chocolate Factory at fifty
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